The decision to have children is only the first step. Next, many couples consider adopting verses having their own children. This may be for medical reasons, or simply because they want to give a child who doesn’t have a home a loving family. No matter what the reason, it is important that couples know as much about the process as possible in order to decide if adopting is right for them.
Do you have the support of your family? It is imperative that both, you and your spouse, and any existing children be on the same page where adoption is concerned. This is essential because adoption is permanent. A supportive family will make all the difference.
Are you patient? The adoption process often takes years. You’ll need to be able to have the patience to take each step one at a time without being anxious about how long it takes.
Do you have the money? Adoption costs can be quite expensive. This is especially true if you plan on adopting a child from overseas. You can spend less by adopting through the foster care system, but you’ll still need money to get your house up to the social workers standards.
Are you willing to have your privacy invaded? Before you will be allowed to adopt, you’ll have to go through rigorous questions and background checks. If there is even one speeding ticket in your name, the adoption agency or social worker will find out about it. You must be willing to disclose everything, as your life will become an open book.
What about children of a different race or special needs children? Your social worker will ask you whether you are willing to adopt a child outside of your own race. In addition, the social worker will also need to know whether you would consider a child with special needs. It is best if you discuss this as a family ahead of time.
Can you handle rejection? Should you find a child you want to adopt, it is still up to the legal guardian of the child to agree to accept your adoption application request. There is a chance that your request may be denied. It doesn’t mean you won’t be able to adopt another child, but you will still have to go through the grieving process of losing the child you originally wanted.
Would you consider an open adoption? In some cases, the parents who are giving up their child still want to know how their child is doing throughout the course of the child’s life. This is something you will need to discuss ahead of time. Not all adoptive parents are comfortable with this arrangement.
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